Sunday, June 9, 2019

DR DAN MONTGOMERY HALL OF FAME MARTIAL ARTS PEDIGREE



Looking back half a century ago, it’s easy to see how God had guided me that night at New Mexico State University at the start of my sophomore year in engineering. I walked directly past a Quonset Hut where Master Hayashi was teaching a class of 30 college students the wacky, wild, and fascinating Martial Art of Japanese Shotokan Karate.

I’d grown up in a small and very wild west town near Santa Fe, New Mexico, where boys learned to fight as naturally as they learned their ABCs. This western culture was big on guns, shootouts, and just a few decades before I was born, the hanging of cattle rustlers. At the first Rodeo dance I attended at 15, the bartender had no qualms about serving me and the other teens whiskey at the bar. When the obligatory fight broke out halfway through the dance, with about 20 grown men whacking the hell out of each other, the band broke out a hearty riff of the Double Eagle Polka that got the other hundred couples up and dancing again.

Now watching the karate lesson, I thought, “Gee, these students dressed in exotic white costumes with different colored belts might teach me a thing or two to improve my score in street fighting." I was nineteen and had fought twenty fist fights, winning eighteen of them, and painfully losing two. Yes, I had been a first rate Cub Scout and Boy Scout; learned to study hard and make good grades; had starred in a couple of high school plays, and been a letterman in football and wrestling, but that didn’t stop me from getting called out to fight regularly in a town rife with racial tensions.

BLACK BELT


So ten years after I saw the white-robed students, I had earned a Ph.D. in Clinical and Counseling Psychology, complete with ten years of karate training and one Black Belt hanging on my waist during the workouts I loved to pursue. And I no longer dreamt of being beaten to a pulp in back alleys. The couple of fights I did get into were when someone tried to rob me. But now I could charge in with a spinning back wheel kick to the head or punches to the solar plexus. These fights lasted all of ten seconds before the other guys were seeing stars and I was thanking the Lord for showing me how to defend myself. 

The Martial Arts Hall of Fame

Much loved and revered people 
with whom I have personally trained:


CHUCK NORRIS won his first World Middleweight Karate Championship in 1968. I was cheering him on, having started my training in karate the year his earned his Black Belt in Korea, earning my brown belt as he won his first of six world titles in a row.

Chuck is a rare human being, indeed. That Oklahoma down-to-earth, gentlemanly honesty, and basic love and respect for people has made him a beloved world hero. That's certainly how my little girl felt when I took her to meet Chuck at a major fight in the Los Angeles Palladium a couple of decades later.

Mr. Norris was sitting in a front row seat of a packed-out house, and Kim and I were in the back. I asked an usher if he would take her down to have Chuck autograph a photo we'd bought of him. And I was deeply touched to see Chuck get up from his seat, wade through a dozen people, and kneel down not only to sign her picture, but give her a glorious hug.



CHUCK NORRIS
I ended up having personal training with both Chuck and his national fighting team partner and co-star in a couple of movies, Bob Barrow. I got a Black Belt in their Tang Su Do system. I also mastered the Chuck Norris Blitz, where we would take turns launching 25 foot charges against an opponent: blistering flurries of spontaneous kicks and punches which they had to defend with counter moves. I could never have survived had we not been heavily protected by bulletproof vests, thigh and shin guards, face gear, and gloves! Even so, a full contact punch could knock me back three feet, or occasionally knock me out. 


JOE LEWIS was the first World Kick Boxing Champion at the same time that he won the Heavy Weight Karate Championship of the World. I loved working out with Joe. He was funny, always smiling and slapping me on the back, and full of good will for everybody—save for the opponents he faced in the rings, upon whom he would release Holy Hell until he knocked them out or sent them to the hospital. Still, he would try to shake their hand at the end, if they were conscious enough to shake hands.

JOE LEWIS

Unknown to most people is that fact that Joe met Bruce Lee shortly after Lee’s Enter the Dragon movie became a smash hit. At first Joe was reluctant to respond to Bruce’s overture to work out together. “I thought his Chinese Kung Fu and cat calls was sissy-slapping crap,” Joe had said. But after they met Joe changed his mind. They worked out a full year together, and Joe revised much of his thinking under the influence of Bruce Lee’s creative thinking and spectacular kinesthetics. I was a grateful beneficiary, because Joe passed on to me much of what he and Bruce had put together in their collaborative synthesis of East meets West in Martial Arts. I still thank them both for what they gave me, these generous, caring men with hearts and souls of solid gold.

One day I said to Joe, “Hey, you got a reputation for the toughest chokehold on earth. Is there any way—safely—that you could teach it to me?” He grinned, those pearly teeth gleaming. “Sure Dan.” That’s the last thing I remember. I had been standing in front of him, but in a flash movement he was behind me, with arms squeezing my neck like a python falling onto a deer out of a tree. I woke up a few minutes later, cradled gently in his arms, his legs twined around mine to keep me pinned down, and the back of my head on his chest to keep it from hitting the floor. “Are you back with us, Dan?” he said, in the friendliest way. I arose slowly, wobbled around for a minute, and said, “Thanks, Joe, that was pretty good, I guess.” “You bet, Dan,” he said, slapping me on the back.



ED PARKER was Elvis Presley’s Karate instructor, and the Founder of American Kempo Karate. A big man with a glorious smile and hearty laugh, Ed’s hand was the same size as Muhammad Ali’s. When shaking both men’s hands, it was like a mouse shaking hands with a lion. My little hand simply disappeared in the vast horizons of their hands. No wonder they could each knock someone cold with a short five inch jab!
(The other man who swallowed my hand like a Great White shark gobbling up a goldfish was Reggie White, All Star NFL tackle for the Pittsburgh Steelers). 

ED PARKER

Ed gave me counsel one day, words that emblazoned on my heart forever: “Dan, don’t take Karate too seriously. Don’t get grim with tunnel vision, because you’ll stumble over your own ego. No. Just do it ‘cause you love it, and love people because they need it.” His eyes really did sparkle and there was a dimple in his cheek as he winked and wished me the best.


BILL WALLACE, known as “Superfoot,” was the Light Weight Champion of the World for a long time. No one could touch him, nor could they stop his foot from whacking them upside the jaw or temple at sixty miles an hour.

Bill asked me to take my stance before him. I did so, and emitted my toughest macho man look. He laughed and shook his head. “I’m sorry Dan, but that’s my favorite stance for guys to take. I just start salivating right away, because I’m thinking which of ten different knockout kicks I’m going to send Special Delivery to them.”


With that he threw a lightning kick to my left jaw so fast that I never saw it, but I did feel a little puff of wind of my cheek when he stopped it a fraction of a millimeter from my skin. Then he sent the same kick high above my head (he had the flexibility to kick 180 degree straight up) and brought it down on my crown as an axe kick. Again, the kick was too fast to see but I did feel a pull of wind on the top of my head. A few seconds later he reversed course, and brought the completion of the triple kick down onto my jaw bone. As if to have a little fun, he ticked my cheek with his toe. Then in a flash he was back in is original stance, looking as though nothing had happened, when in actually, my whole world had been turned upside down!

I learned lots from Bill. But a quality of the soul went deepest inside me. This man had humility, and a loving respect for everyone he ever met or fought. Bill Wallace is the epitome of good sportsmanship, and for the millions who knew and loved him, I say, “Thanks, Bill. You are the stuff out of which humble greatness is made!”


BENNY 'THE JET' URQUIDEZ is the friendliest, kindest, soft-spoken guy I’ve ever trained with. For a world class knockout artist who struck terror in the hearts of all who fought him, Benny nevertheless reached out in love and kindness to the whole world, as he had done to the 84 year grandmother he had just started training before his session with me.

BENNY THE JET

I learned so much from this very small (5’ 6” 145 pound) huge-hearted guy! “Dan, don’t just punch the bag. Make love to it. Go up, down, side, straddle, sway, duck, swoop, hit. Make it interesting!” And he did just that. For me. Thanks, Benny. You’re the best of the best! 


GRANDMASTER HEE IL CHOWhoa! When I entered his gym there was tranquil stillness in the air, punctuated by staccato “Ke-ayes!” Everyone bowed, worked out in perfect formation, standing at attention under the hawk eyes of their Grandmaster, who has trained and performed at the most superior level of achievement, so as to become a living icon of an invincible Martial Artist. Studying this style taught me how to deliver tornado-like spinning back-kicks to the head, solar plexus and the knee that whacks out an opponent in a fraction of a section. I mastered 30 of Cho’s Tae Kwon Do street fighting combinations (block-strike-kick), as well as the unique twenty minute, very rigorous high energy workout he performed almost every day of his life. Thanks, Grandmaster!

Thousands of disciples worldwide, who absolutely adore him, shower him with good cheer and many gifts at his every birthday. I say, “Go Cho!”


GRANDMASTER HEE IL CHO


There’s one crucial point about which I disagree with Grandmaster Cho: His lifelong emphasis with students to turn their hands into functional clubs by pounding the bones of the hand into iron pipes or bricks to stimulate calcification of the bone, developing a large ride of bone mass, especially on the front two knuckles and on the side of the hand, where one can deliver a knife hand strike. I believe this centuries-old and traditional martial arts training needs to pass away because it runs counter to holistic human health and pain free aging (where you don’t take four ibuprofen per hour to cope with the arthritic hand and foot pain caused by over calcification of bone through pounding objects throughout the years). 

Yes, I did have to break the obligatory number of pieces of wood and brick in my day, in order to earn the three different Black Belts that I hold. But I never did it through deforming my bones. I did it in the moment of certification tests by using supersonic punches and kicks. Strikes that capitalized on Einstein’s theory of Relativity and famous equation: E=MC squared. In other words I used Chi energy to at thunderous speed to send a shockwave into the molecular structure of the wood or brick, that snapped it in two at its core. And that was that.

As a psychologist, theologian, and philosopher, I say we need our hands, wrists, and joints to be flexible so that we can caress the cheeks of children, feel the petals of a rose, play a musical instrument, or type on the computer. We turn our knuckles into clubs at the expense of God’s purposes for the human hand. 

What is my workout like these days? 


  • work out katas with fierce discipline
  • dance, listen to Argentine Tango and Hip Hop music through my Bose Headset
  • take a break to read a good GQ article in the middle of a two-hour workout
  • doing Grand Rounds around the gym to see how my compadres are coming along…”Hey Joe, how’d the kidney stone procedure turn out?” “Hi Mary, congrats on your daughter’s graduation with her BA last week!” “Oh, Carlos, is that gout still acting up on you?”


So as a psychologist, theologian, and philosopher, I say we need the rhythm of both discipline and freedom in Martial Arts, and in Life: 



Discipline to learn    AND     Freedom to play

ENJOY!

Peace. Joy. Love.

Dr. Dan


Dr. Dan Montgomery










Sunday, June 2, 2019

SIX TIPS TO PLACE GOD FIRST FOR A VIBRANT AND LOVING MARRIAGE


Dr. Dan and Kate Montgomery

TIP 1:  Have Faith In God As A Couple


KATE: “When Dan and I were first getting to know each other, my faith was marginal. Dan’s was strong, and he was writing even then about integrating God in daily life and relationships. What was my first reaction to reading the manuscript for what became FAITH BEYOND CHURCH WALLS: Finding Freedom in Christ?
 
‘Who do you think you are, Dan, to have experienced so many miracles in your life, and to say that other people can too if they just ask?'”

Dan’s reaction? He gave me his precious personal copy of The Living Bible.”

"That weekend, as I read the Gospel of John, I started crying (a good sign of the Holy Spirit’s presence). Shortly thereafter, I dedicated my life to Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior.”

 

DAN: “I felt terrified to commit to marriage, having been badly hurt in several prior relationships before. I knew I loved Kate, but when I went to buy her a ring, I had a panic attack in the jewelry store and left. I knew I wanted to marry her, but I could not get out a single word on my own to propose to her.

We were sitting in a car right before I was to get on a plane, and I cried out to the Holy Spirit: “Please Help!”

My mouth and jaw started moving; then sounds came, with words I didn’t understand but went ahead and said. This went on for a couple of minutes, then stopped. I turned to look at Kate, sure I had utterly blown it. But she was smiling. 


“Yes, I will, with all my heart.”
“Will what?” I asked.
“Marry you! You just proposed to me in perfect French, my second language, and the language of my heart!”


I recognized that the Holy Spirit had indeed employed supernatural power to help me, since I had never spoken French before; nor have I since. My spirit flooded with joy, I was then able to propose in English, all fear vanquished. 


That you both have faith and trust in God to guide your couple's life is central to a vibrant, loving, and growing marriage.

TIP 2: The “Covenant of Weakness” with God


A Covenant of Weakness means that as a couple you surrender on your knees to the Holy Spirit to do Christ’s will together, to the Glory of the Father. 

You seek daily knowledge of God’s unfolding will as your highest concern, without placing these factors above God’s will as you mutually seek to understand it and carry it out:
  • financial pursuits 
  • career development 
  • job changes
  • family members’ opinions
  • hobbies and pastimes  
  • vacations and traveling
  • purchases and shopping
  • buying or redecorating a house
  •  

TIP 3: Commit to Model Christ-like Behavior with Each Other


Jesus never used sarcasm, so your couple doesn't need to either:
  • No sarcasm
  • No stereotyped jokes about the battle of the sexes or men versus women in marriage
  • No pranks that scare, startle, or embarrass your spouse
  • No trash talking or trying to get the next jab or cutting remark
  • No curse words for each other for these lead to the psychology of enemy formation that is the downfall of couple's trust and intimacy
  • And remember to make quick sincere apologies whenever you are curt, impolite, rash, or emotionally fired up

 

TIP 4:  Daily “Integration Seminars” 

 

Sit down together anywhere from five minutes to an hour. This daily time slot helps your couple:
  • regroup after a busy day 
  • restore emotional connection
  • sustain a sense of mutual purpose  
  • preserve a warm interpersonal climate for communication
We often use this time to pray out loud for God’s guidance on any number of practical issues. (If you pray silently, your partner is in the dark about what you said or didn't say, which does no one any good).


TIP 5: Keep Replenishing An Airtight Commitment to Place the Sanctity of Your Marriage Bond in Christ Before All Other Concerns


Don't:
  • Flirt with your eyes, words, or overly intimate hugs
  • Build an emotionally inappropriate bond
  • Or in any other way pursue a co-dependent relationship with a person outside your marriage (including parents, siblings, or best friends)
  •  

TIP 6: Read and apply The Self Compass: Charting Your Personality In Christ


 
The Self Compass


Read this book together! Talk over all its principles. Help each other grow more whole as individuals and as a couple in Christ. Discover practical growth tools to outgrow personality patterns using Jesus as your model of healthy personality and interpersonal communication.


Are these high standards? Yes, indeed. But God concretely helps when you ask. In difficult times, remember what Jesus said: 







"In this world you will have trouble. 
But take heart! 
I have overcome the world"
(Jn 16:33).

Friday, May 31, 2019

Catholic Cardinals and Pope Benedict XVI Commend Dr. Dan Montgomery's GOD AND YOUR PERSONALITY Book

The Cardinal's response caught me by surprise. A number of years ago, the Pauline Sisters of Boston (Pauline Books & Media) invited me to write a book that became published worldwide, titled GOD AND YOUR PERSONALITY

Dr. Dan Montgomery

I sent a copy to a Vatican Cardinal, with little expectation of a response, due to his impacted schedule. But a few weeks later, there came in the mail these comments:

“Dr. Dan Montgomery’s Christian personality theory 
demonstrates a good understanding of the human person's 
proper resting place in the embrace of a transcendent God. 
This is no New Age influenced waffle 
clouded in a mystique of blurb, 
but a useful tool for all those 
who seek to address personality issues 
and quench their innate spiritual thirst 
with the living water which truly satisfies. 
Well done!” 

Paul Cardinal Poupard
President Emeritus Vatican Council for Culture 

Paul Cardinal Poupard

How did I come to write this book in the first place? 

One afternoon I received a phone call from Sister Mary Mark, the  Pauline Books & Media Editor at that time. Since they enjoy an excellent worldwide reputation, I was pleased to hear from her. 

Sister Mary Mark said she had read some of my books and articles and felt guided to ask me this question: 

"As a Psychologist and Theologian, could you please write a book that we can publish that integrates spirituality with psychology, and that includes the Holy Spirit?" 

"I would be thrilled to do just that," I replied, remembering to breathe, "for I consider such a topic my life calling."

With my wife Kate's abundant assistance, and the anointing of the Holy Spirit, I wrote God and Your Personality in three weeks.  

I felt honored to receive this commendation from Vatican Archbishop Robert Sarah, Secretary of the Vatican Council for the Evangelization of Peoples:
    “This book is easy to understand and yet contains a profound understanding of the underlying elements of the human personality. It will surely be of much help to anyone who wishes to deepen their knowledge of the relationship between psychological and spiritual wholeness.”
     
    Archbishop Robert Sarah

    That year, other Cardinals also commended God and Your Personality: 
     
    • Ricardo Cardinal Vidal, Manila:
    God & Your Personality is a noble accomplishment and a gift to individuals who seek wholeness and holiness.”

    Ricardo Cardinal Vidal

    • Erdo Cardinal Peter, Budapest: 
    God & Your Personality is a fine achievement and wonderful contribution to the healing ministry.”

    Erdo Cardinal Peter

    • Stephen Cardinal Kim, Seoul:
    “I am now reading God & Your Personality and find it very enlightening.”

    Stephen Cardinal Kim

    Kate and I were privileged to be invited to spend a weekend with the Sisters in Boston soon after the book's publication, where we met Sister Mary Mark, who offered to hire Kate as an editor! We participated in Evensong Mass, sharing the Eucharist together. We were deeply moved in hearing the Pauline Sisters Chorale, and in feeling a holy thickening of the atmosphere under the power of the Holy Spirit.

    This story is even more extraordinary: While I am an Evangelical, Ecumenical, and Spirit-filled Christian—affirming the Apostle's Creed, the Divine Inspiration of Scripture, the Communion of Saints, and revere Mary, the Mother of Jesus, I am not a Roman Catholic. I was converted to Jesus Christ at 17. By the time I entered college, the Holy Spirit instructed me to become as well read in all things Catholic as I was in all things Protestant. 

    During college, by the interior teaching of the Holy Spirit I understood that toward the end of life, the books God had chosen me to write would be sought by Catholic and Protestant Christians around the world, a living testimony to St. Paul's words: "There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call, one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of us all, who is above all and through all and in all” (Eph 4:4-6 RSVCE)."

    So beyond John Calvin, Martin Luther, and John Wesley, the Spirit guided me to read the works of St. Augustine, St. Anselm, St. Bonaventure, St. Thomas Aquinas, St. Theresa of Avila, St. John of the Cross, Trappist priest Thomas Merton, Catholic Philosopher Gabriel Marcel, Karl Rahner, Jesuit Philosopher of History, Frederick Copleston, and to attend many Catholic masses and Monastery retreats. 

    I can therefore say with all my heart that I treasure all Catholics as my brothers and sisters in Christ. And I am humbly grateful for the fact that there is a copy of God and Your Personality in The Vatican Library, and (according to his personal theologian) a copy of this book in Pope Benedict XVI's personal library. 


    Pope Benedict XVI



    Using the Catechism of the Catholic Church, Second Edition as one of my sources, I recently wrote a revised and expanded version of the original book now available in both print and Kindle form on Amazon:


    God and Your Personality





    Wednesday, May 29, 2019

    WHY YOU WANT TO READ THE BIBLE


     
    Dr. Dan Montgomery

    As a Clinical Psychologist for 40 years, as well as an ordained Christian minister and theologian, I offer up my lifetime assessment of Homo Sapiens historically and today: 

    That apart from God’s grace and guidance, 
    we human beings are vain, fickle, and recalcitrant. 

    I share this view with world famous existential psychologist Rollo May, who coined this phrase and personally shared it with me 40 years ago.
     

    Are Dr. May and I alone in this assessment? Are we overly pessimistic? 

    Or are we reflecting the view of humankind revealed in the Bible, the Old and New Testaments, from Genesis through Revelation? 

    Read the Bible cover to cover this month, 
    without rationalist, humanist, or liberal-progressive agendas, 
    and find out for yourself. 

    The New International Version (NIV), New Living Testament (NLT), and The Message (MSG) are solid and current translations. BibleGateway offers excellent online resources. 

    The Bible portrays the universal human condition as sin-filled and estranged from the holiness and purposes of God: individuals who do what’s right in their own eyes:

     "Woe to those who are wise in their own eyes 
    and clever in their own sight"  
    (Isaiah 5:21 NIV)

    They follow a pathway that seems rational or ethical or religious to them, but lacks a holy relationship to the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit: A personal relationship, one that replaces rote lip service to a static image of the Trinity for the vibrant Triune God who created this Cosmos, yes, but who longs for each person of every culture or belief or DNA or sex, to know Him personally and trust him in all life choices.

    The Father, Son, and Holy Spirit: Three Persons in One God, invite us to live a Spirit-led daily life in conversation with Him about the most intimate goings on in our lives. 

    “Lord, I pray to you for help in my relationship with my daughter. We’re picking at each other too much. Please reveal a path for us that I can understand.” 

    The Trinitarian God invites us, beseeches us, to engage Him twenty fours hours a day, 365 days a year, decade after decade—until in death we each meet Him face to face. 

    At that point, we are either excluded from His eternal presence as a consequence of impenitent lifelong sin (Hell), or we are included in the glorious company of the redeemed, born again individuals who know, trust, and obey the Lord God Almighty (Heaven).

     

    My suggestion to all seven billion or so persons who currently inhabit Planet Earth? 

    Seek the Lord while He may be found, 
    for today is the day of salvation.

     
    SEEKING JESUS


    If you haven’t received His blood atonement for your sins, pray for this free gift of new life in the Spirit and grace-filled reconciliation to God. 


    This gift comes if you confess in your mind and believe in your heart that Jesus Christ gave his Life and Blood on the Cross as a once-and-for-all atonement for your sins so that you can: 
    • have life in Him, and have it more abundantly.
    • know the truth that sets you free
    • follow the resurrected and spiritually ascended Jesus
     You make Jesus the Lord of your life by doing the Father’s will in loving God with your whole human nature, and loving your neighbor (the Family of Humanity) as you love yourself” (Luke 10:27).

    God himself put it this way:
    “I’ll live in them, move into them;
        I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people.
    So leave the corruption and compromise;
        leave it for good,” says God.
     

    “Don’t link up with those who will pollute you.
        I want you all for myself.
    I’ll be a Father to you;
        you’ll be sons and daughters to me.”
    The Word of the Master, God. 


    2 Corinthians: 6:16-18 (MSG)